In general my Pet is quite affectionate and that was BEFORE we introduced chastity into our intimacy. One thing that I had not expected was for him to become more affectionate than he already was. So much so that it can be almost cloying in it's intensity.
Since he has not been allowed to come during playtime, his sexual tension is constant as his goal is to eventually be allowed that all elusive orgasm. His plight is ongoing nightly, daily, hourly and although we have a date set for when he will be allowed to come he never gives up in his goal of changing my mind.
The first few weeks were quite enlightening and very pleasurable although we did find out my poor pussy could not handle the amount of oral sex he was performing on me, sometimes several times a day looking for not only his own release but pleasing me to the point where I would allow it.
There was a moment or two where the thought crossed my mind "Is too mach pleasure in the hands and tongue of my Pet possible?" Possibly, but as we as a couple have chosen this road for him, it has occurred to me that I have more responsibility to his emotional, sexual and physical being and health than I ever have before. In denying his final pleasure, there is an unending need to ensure that I am pleased and it is my responsibility and pleasure to allow, encourage and enjoy his attentions.
My Pet's needs are far more entwined with mine as his Mistress than anytime in our previous 20 years of sexual exploration.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
An Unexpected Night Alone
My Pet in not very comfortable having his pussy used and abused while little ears could possibly hear him begging and moaning. With one off to college and the other at a friend or relatives every Saturday night we have fallen into a schedule. Now, he normally gets to come on Saturday nights after 7 days of being locked up. I make sure that he can still feel me on Sunday if he has pleased me well during the week.
Alas, summer break is here and we find ourselves alone in the evenings more often. Does that mean he gets to come if we can get our freak on with no little ears about. I think not. It does however give me more opportunities to tease him with one or more of the toys in our trunk while he stays caged. These extra nights excited him at first. A nite alone, his Mistress in her strap-on and no one to hear him beg for her cock.
Let's see how much he likes summer break while I take the opportunity to redden his bottom a little more regularly and yet is still not allowed to come until Saturday. His Mistress has decided that this summer she just may work on honing her edging skills as well....
Alas, summer break is here and we find ourselves alone in the evenings more often. Does that mean he gets to come if we can get our freak on with no little ears about. I think not. It does however give me more opportunities to tease him with one or more of the toys in our trunk while he stays caged. These extra nights excited him at first. A nite alone, his Mistress in her strap-on and no one to hear him beg for her cock.
Let's see how much he likes summer break while I take the opportunity to redden his bottom a little more regularly and yet is still not allowed to come until Saturday. His Mistress has decided that this summer she just may work on honing her edging skills as well....
Monday, June 23, 2014
What's in a Name?
A common concept or belief is knowing the name of someone gives us power. When we began this game... and yes at this point it was a game and in many ways still is, we played with several honorifics. Slave. Slut. Whore. Mistress. Master. Miss ect.ect. When he finally settled on Mistress it felt as odd as it sounded. I still had not settled on something I was comfortable with but being the reader I am went back to my erotic BDSM novels and rediscovered the endearment "Pet". At first it seemed odd... out of place. It was not uncomfortable per say but still playful or silly.
As the weeks went by, a change occurred in our relationship and with the power in the names we had given one another. No longer were they silly names in a game but positions of strength within our relationship. I have a new respect for my Pet for giving himself over to me and the honor it is to be his Mistress. That's not to say I don't throw out the occasional "cum slut" or "pussy boy"! The names have changed us. I feel powerful when my Pet call me his Mistress.
As the weeks went by, a change occurred in our relationship and with the power in the names we had given one another. No longer were they silly names in a game but positions of strength within our relationship. I have a new respect for my Pet for giving himself over to me and the honor it is to be his Mistress. That's not to say I don't throw out the occasional "cum slut" or "pussy boy"! The names have changed us. I feel powerful when my Pet call me his Mistress.
Sunday, June 22, 2014
Orgasm Denial
When the idea of denying my Pet his orgasm first came about we obviously did not have a chastity device. It was purely self denial. He was quite good at it considering the amount of teasing I inflicted upon him during our sometimes nightly play sessions. Going so far as to actually allow him small increments of intercourse to ensure he stayed highly aroused, he often went for days with a hard on.
Once he began wearing the device however, he seemed to immensely enjoy it. I was still unsure about the actual pleasure of long term denial. Like most of us, I held the belief that true pleasure came from the orgasm itself. The reality is that those precious moments of sexual bliss can be extended so much longer.
In talking to Pet about it, I realized he felt pleasure all week long during his denial period. Yes! He wanted to cum! Yes! He wanted to place his penis in any orifice I allowed! However, by denying himself (willingly or locked) he felt sexual tension the entire time. This epiphany allowed me to relax so much more into the pleasure he was offering even on those days he was not allowed to climax.
Once he began wearing the device however, he seemed to immensely enjoy it. I was still unsure about the actual pleasure of long term denial. Like most of us, I held the belief that true pleasure came from the orgasm itself. The reality is that those precious moments of sexual bliss can be extended so much longer.
In talking to Pet about it, I realized he felt pleasure all week long during his denial period. Yes! He wanted to cum! Yes! He wanted to place his penis in any orifice I allowed! However, by denying himself (willingly or locked) he felt sexual tension the entire time. This epiphany allowed me to relax so much more into the pleasure he was offering even on those days he was not allowed to climax.
Thursday, June 19, 2014
About Us
I decided to write this blog of our journey to Male Chastity and submission because much of what I found out there when we began researching seemed almost scripted. I wanted a real view of what happened within a couple's relationship when such a epic reversal of roles occurred. Many blogs I came across did not appear realistic or plausible... though I can't be sure lol. I found only a few that attracted me and seemed similar to our relationship. I found that I wanted to share our own experiences, fantasies, emotions and even our toy box! More than anything however, was the need to find others who shared our sexual proclivities and how this lifestyle has changed their relationship... hell it has changed our LIVES!
My Pet and I have been married for more than 20 years. We are both in our 40's and have an active sex life that has evolved and changed throughout our time together... more recently delving into Male Chastity. For about the last 14 years we have engaged in pegging, minor restraint, spanking and sex toys. In the last year or so that has changed to encompass so much more.
With my Pet buying an IPhone ( 2+ years ago) and his technologically challenged self getting access to the Internet, he has communicated to me more about his wants and desires. First it was just short videos, Tumblr pictures or quotes but soon became verbal requests. About a year ago he asked that he give up control in the bedroom and that I become the more dominant partner. This blog is about our experiences, fantasies and our journey both past and present.
My Pet and I have been married for more than 20 years. We are both in our 40's and have an active sex life that has evolved and changed throughout our time together... more recently delving into Male Chastity. For about the last 14 years we have engaged in pegging, minor restraint, spanking and sex toys. In the last year or so that has changed to encompass so much more.
With my Pet buying an IPhone ( 2+ years ago) and his technologically challenged self getting access to the Internet, he has communicated to me more about his wants and desires. First it was just short videos, Tumblr pictures or quotes but soon became verbal requests. About a year ago he asked that he give up control in the bedroom and that I become the more dominant partner. This blog is about our experiences, fantasies and our journey both past and present.
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